Living, Playing and Moving Forward
Date Published: December 8, 2020
Publisher: Balboa Press
C’mon, Let’s Play!” shares methods for the readers to play with that can help them change their lives. Here, Suberla reflects on her life journey, and uses her own examples of good and bad choices to give practical advice on how to achieve your goals. With humor, she shares her approach to making some life changing choices including how she became a hippie in the late 60s and early 70s, to her decision to retire early from her corporate job. Dee also shares her process for how she moved through breast cancer. By sharing her personals story, the author demonstrates the importance of how one’s thoughts and beliefs determine the life that he or she leads and how anyone can get more living in life by playing with the concepts in this book.
What was your main drive to write this book?
I had already written a book relating to the project management side of my business and I wanted to do something for the coaching side. Whether I am coaching someone making changes in their career or someone who is feeling stuck and looking for more, I use the same techniques but from different approaches. I thought it would be a great idea to get it into a book to share with my clients, and an even larger audience.
What do you hope readers will learn by reading this book?
I’d like them to learn that you can make the changes you to make starting from anywhere you happen to be in your life. The beginning chapters in this book deal with my life and struggles with drugs, alcohol, and cancer. In the later years of the story, I discovered this amazing information and now I see it everywhere. I ask the reader to play with the ideas about how we think about things so they can feel comfortable making their own changes. When one wants to do more with their life or make other significant changes, the biggest obstacle comes from our own beliefs about our lives. The reader learns concepts to help remove self-imposed limits like, I’m too old, too young, I don’t have money, education or something else that we think is an obstacle, but almost always, is not.
Readers learn that if they can open to the possibilities that exist in this universe it’s a whole new playing field. There are a few quotes from Dr. Wayne Dyer in the book and one of my favorites is a quote and one of his book titles, “You’ll See It When You Believe It.” It is important to my message because it also means you are seeing what you believe about your life right now. I give a talk called “What Are You Thinking,” where I go deep into this subject. But this is the main thing for them to learn, that they have control over their lives whether they use it intentionally or not. Either way, it’s driven by our own thoughts and beliefs.
Did you do much research when planning this book?
I did. It started when I retired after 30 years in corporate America and was diagnosed with cancer 3 weeks later. I share that story, but the research started after my recovery when I was at a place where I felt there had to be something more after all that time working then getting through cancer. I took a class through my church and when I could not answer their first question, I knew I was in the right place. That was, “If you could wave a magic wand and have no constraints, what would your perfect life look like?”
Wow – I sat there and blushed with embarrassment. I couldn’t answer that question. Well, I learned quickly that I wasn’t alone and then I learned the key steps: first, define the perfect life for me, and then define what it looks, feels, like tastes like, etc. I was hooked so I went beyond the class – all the way to LA where I got certified. As it turned out I wasn’t comfortable with how they suggested I go about building a coaching practice using these ideas. So, I started looking into the reference materials and the first book I read was Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl. Again, WOW… what that man went through and not only survived but helped so many people during and after. In Auschwitz he came up with:
“Forces beyond your control can take away everything you possess except one thing, your freedom to choose how you will respond to the situation.” In the book he explained how no matter what the did they could not make him hate.
After that I investigated several other books that had different perspectives leading to the same place.
Did you have any main people who helped you in the process of this book or influenced you to write it?
This book is dedicated to the lovely Carole Lee White, my good friend and mentor. She introduced and instructed me on so much of this sort thing. In her later years I visited her in the memory support area of the facility where she lived. She didn’t remember much of the last 6 to 10 years, however we talked about the old days for hours. I told her I wanted to write a book on all these topics and as we talked, I shared one example of a lesson I learned (the hard way, as was my nature). She leaned forward and pointed at me with authority and said, “You have to put that in your book!” I did. And that was really the cornerstone on which the book was built. Explain the ideas and demonstrate how they worked for me.
How long did this book take you to write from initial thought to hitting publish?
That path was longer than it needed to be, it was about 5 years. Two of those years I was having a love hate thing going on with the manuscript. I had it edited and it sat a while until Covid hit. I knew I was going to be on lock down for a while and I thought about after it was all over, what would I be kicking myself for not doing with all that extra time. And it was not using the time to publish this book – so I did it.
Do you have plans to write more about this topic or new topics?
I won’t write on this topic again but it’s funny how things connect. I’m shopping a middle grade action fantasy book called The Zing Fling, that has a few key points of how the way you think means a lot and how you think about yourself has a major impact on your life. I’m not sure the connection between the two books is obvious to the general reader but it’s pure fun for me. I’ve also started pulling a chapbook of poetry together. Some of the concepts in this book will be entwined there as well. I guess the message here comes from my core.
About the Author
Dee G Suberla is best known for her expertise in project management. Of course, she didn’t start out that way, no she started writing poetry at an early age, then became a resource for people she worked with in the pharmaceutical industry when there was a need to write something particularly tricky. When she reflected on the favorite parts of her job it came down to coaching; she loved helping people to set and achieve their goals. Coaching wasn’t in her job description but it was a passion that she pursued after she became a consultant and wrote her first book to help new project managers called Poof You’re a Project Manager and Other Delusions of Grandeur. Recently, she was compelled to write C’mon Let’s play to share what she had learned with people who felt stuck, helpless or were looking for something new. Whether Dee is career coaching, life coaching or coaching somewhere in between, she shares much of this information with her clients and wrote this book to reach a wider audience.
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